Video calls, even in the context of dating, are a great way to get to know someone before meeting in person, particularly for international professionals. While they may feel different from an in-person meeting, with the right approach, they can be just as engaging.
Maclynn’s Guide to Successful Video Calls
KEEP THE FIRST CALL SHORT AND SWEET
Unlike a first date at a bar or restaurant, a video call doesn’t offer natural distractions or environmental talking points. It’s a more direct and focused way of getting to know someone, so aim for a minimum of 30 minutes—or longer if the conversation flows naturally. Go into the call with an open mind, treating it as a relaxed introduction rather than placing pressure on it to feel like a “real date.” Since there’s no shared setting to spark conversation, be prepared to take the lead in finding engaging topics and easing into a natural rhythm.
Perfect Your On-Screen Presence
POSITION YOUR CAMERA
Position your camera at or just above eye level for the most flattering and natural look. Avoid extreme angles that can be distracting.
FACE A LIGHT SOURCE
Good lighting makes a big difference. Sit facing a light source rather than having it behind you to keep your face well-lit and clear.
CREATE A PRESENTABLE BACKGROUND
Keep your space tidy and free from clutter. A simple, neutral background works best and keeps the focus on you.
MINIMISE DISTRACTIONS
Choose a quiet space where you won’t be interrupted. Turn off device notifications and give your full attention to the conversation.
Make a Great First Impression
Dress the Part
Smart-casual attire works best—think polished but not overly formal. While you may be at home, dressing well signals respect for the occasion and shows you have made an effort. We advise checking yourself on camera a few minutes before the call is due to start to check you are happy with how you look. Small details, like ensuring your hair is neatly styled and your posture is composed, contribute to making a great first impression.
Use Positive Body Language
A warm smile and open posture can instantly make the conversation feel more welcoming. Even through a screen, body language plays a key role in setting the tone. Sit up straight, maintain comfortable eye contact by looking into the camera occasionally, and avoid fidgeting or crossing your arms, which can come across as disengaged. Nodding and using subtle hand gestures can also help show you’re engaged and actively listening. Hide any image of you on the screen, so you can focus on your match rather than being distracted by your own image.
Keep the Conversation Natural & Engaging
Avoid making the conversation feel like an interview with back-to-back questions. Instead, focus on sharing personal anecdotes and allowing the dialogue to flow naturally, as though you’re chatting with someone seated next to you at a dinner party. If a topic sparks interest, explore it further rather than rushing to the next question. This creates a more engaging and dynamic exchange.
Aim for a balanced conversation where both of you contribute equally—around 50% of the time each. The key is to create an easygoing atmosphere where both of you feel heard and enjoy the conversation.
Show Genuine Interest & Build a Connection
Ask about their work, interests, and passions, and actively listen to their responses. Instead of just listing your own achievements, share what excites you—whether it’s a project you love, a hobby you’re passionate about, or a goal you’re working toward. This makes the conversation feel more personal and engaging.
Look for common ground, whether it’s travel, hobbies, or life values. A great video call isn’t about ticking boxes—it’s about creating a shared experience and seeing where the connection naturally leads. Relax, be yourself, and enjoy getting to know each other. If the conversation feels promising, consider suggesting another call or an in-person meeting to continue building the connection.
