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The Banana Theory – Have you heard of it?

  • Dating Advice

4 min read

In the vast world of dating trends, a quirky new theory has emerged that’s catching the attention of singles everywhere: the Banana Theory.

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Rachel Vida MacLynn

This intriguing concept suggests that placing bananas prominently upwards in your supermarket trolley is a subtle signal to indicate you’re single. While it’s a fun and novel idea, it highlights a deeper issue—people are growing weary of online dating and are eager to find more organic, in-real-life (IRL) ways to meet potential partners. At Maclynn, we understand this desire and believe in focusing on shared values rather than supermarket locations. Let’s explore the Banana Theory and practical tips on how to meet people IRL in more meaningful ways.

The Allure of the Banana Theory

The Banana Theory taps into the whimsical side of dating. Imagine strolling through the aisles of your local supermarket, casually eyeing the fruit section, and noticing someone with a perfectly arranged bunch of bananas pointing upwards. It’s a lighthearted signal that sparks curiosity and perhaps a conversation. It’s playful, simple, and a refreshing break from swiping left or right on a dating app.

Why the Banana Theory Resonates

The Banana Theory’s popularity underscores a significant sentiment among singles: the fatigue of online dating. Despite its convenience, many find the endless profiles, superficial judgments, and lack of genuine connection draining. People crave authentic interactions, serendipitous meetings, and the chance to connect without the constraints of a digital screen. The Banana Theory is a response to this, a call to bring back the charm of spontaneous, in-person encounters.

Beyond Bananas: Seeking Shared Values

While the Banana Theory is a fun conversation starter, finding a compatible partner involves much more than a clever grocery store signal. It’s about meeting someone who shares your core values, life goals, and interests. At Maclynn, we emphasise the importance of values-based matchmaking, where deeper compatibility is prioritised over mere convenience.

Here are some practical tips to meet people IRL while focusing on shared values and genuine connections:

1. Take Out the Headphones

One of the simplest ways to open yourself up to new connections is by being more approachable. When you’re out and about, whether at the supermarket, café, or on a walk, take out your headphones and be present. Engaging with your surroundings and making eye contact with others can lead to unexpected conversations and connections.

2. Attend Events and Social Gatherings

Engaging in activities and events that align with your interests is a fantastic way to meet like-minded people. Whether it’s a book club, a cooking class, or a hiking group, participating in events that you genuinely enjoy increases the likelihood of meeting someone who shares your passions.

  • Join Local Clubs and Groups: Find clubs or groups in your community that match your hobbies and interests. Websites like Meetup can help you discover local events and gatherings.
  • Volunteer: Volunteering for causes you care about not only makes a positive impact but also connects you with others who share your values.

3. Use a Matchmaker

Professional matchmaking services like Maclynn offer a personalised approach to dating, focusing on finding partners who align with your values and lifestyle. Our matchmakers take the time to understand your unique preferences and introduce you to compatible singles, removing the guesswork and uncertainty of dating.

4. Be Open to Spontaneous Interactions

Sometimes, the best connections happen when you least expect them. Be open to striking up conversations in everyday situations, whether you’re waiting in line at a coffee shop or sitting next to someone at a workshop. Genuine curiosity and friendliness can go a long way in creating meaningful interactions.

5. Leverage Your Social Network

Don’t underestimate the power of your existing social network. Friends and family can be excellent matchmakers, introducing you to people they believe would be a good fit. Attend social gatherings and let your network know you’re open to meeting new people.

6. Sign Up for Our Newsletter

Stay informed about exclusive events, workshops, and social gatherings by signing up for Maclynn’s newsletter. Our curated events are designed to bring like-minded singles together in a relaxed and enjoyable environment, increasing your chances of finding a meaningful connection.

Embracing the IRL Dating Revolution

The rise of the Banana Theory is a testament to the growing desire for real-life connections. While it’s a charming and playful concept, the underlying message is clear: people want to meet others in more authentic and organic ways. By focusing on shared values, being present, and actively participating in social activities, you can create opportunities for meaningful connections.

At Maclynn, we are committed to helping you navigate this journey. Our approach goes beyond superficial encounters, prioritising deep compatibility and genuine relationships. Whether you’re intrigued by the Banana Theory or simply looking for ways to meet someone special IRL, we’re here to support you every step of the way.

The Banana Theory may be a fun and quirky idea, but the real takeaway is the importance of meeting people in genuine, real-life settings. By focusing on shared values and engaging in activities that reflect your true interests, you can build meaningful connections that go beyond the surface. Embrace the charm of spontaneous interactions, leverage your social network, and consider the personalised approach of a matchmaker. Ready to explore the world of IRL dating? Let Maclynn guide you to finding a partner who truly complements your life.

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About the Author

Rachel Vida MacLynn

Founder & CEO

In 2011, Rachel took a leap of faith. Following a series of serendipitous events, she founded Vida (now known as Maclynn) in London and never looked back. Rachel is a Chartered Member and Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society and holds a Master’s degree in Occupational Psychology. Her own values around integrity, delivering the highest standards, inclusion, and self-empowerment are at the core of Maclynn’s unique matchmaking model. Described by clients as calm, compassionate, warm and wise, she continues to be fully immersed in the business, working with a select number of VIP clients. In recent years, Rachel’s personal life has focused on raising her two young sons with her partner, Jamie. Rachel has also achieved her personal goals of running the New York Marathon and reaching the summit of Kilimanjaro.

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