The old theory is that opposites attract; sweet and sour, emotional and logical, yin and yang etc etc. However we are now here to suggest that this may not be true. According to the BALANCE THEORY – we prefer consistency in our desires thoughts and feelings. Therefore sharing similar characteristics and mind-sets with a loved one makes us feel normal and desirable.
As humans we are constantly weighing up potential partners on a subconscious scale, in terms of their level of social desirability and how equal it is to our own self-perception. Males who are the protector/provider type generally tend to be more socially desirable to women and physical beauty and youth is (sadly) more socially desirable for men; if a man has a high status and can offer financial security on a grand scale, but his physical attractiveness is less than a woman’s this can lead to them being equal again on the see-saw of life! Therefore MATE VALUE has a role…to an objective observers eye when opposites do seem to pair off they might be trading mate value assets.
If we notice qualities in someone that we would like to attain i.e. success, or a good physique – it can make someone more attractive. We as humans to tend to take on characteristics of our partner, therefore by being with someone of a more advanced version of our IDEAL SELVES we are drawn to them as they naturally push us more towards the person we would want to be. At the same time, if someone compliments us, makes us look good or balances us out we tend to find them more attractive. So someone high on extroversion might prefer to be with someone who is more introverted and visa versa..i.e in this case sometimes extreme opposites do attract.
Ultimately we at Maclynn suggest you spend time with people who make you feel good, who you can be open and honest with and who will push you to be the best you can be…and leave the rest up to your subconscious! Happy dating!
