Is it chemistry or compatibility that’s a winner?

Compatibility is defined as a ‘state in which two things are able to exist or occur together without problems or conflict’. Reality check here, there is no human relationship that will be entirely without problems or conflict, it’s just a fact of life. It’s being able to work through these challenges that really cements a relationship. But what is compatibility when it comes to dating and relationships?

Reality check here, there is no human relationship that will be entirely without problems or conflict, it’s just a fact of life.

It’s really about whether it is obvious that the potential for a relationship is there because of similarities in lifestyles, ethics and values. It is often why people from similar social circles will marry because their experience of life and the way they have been brought up are in sync. That is not to say that you couldn’t meet someone from another spectrum of life and form a relationship, but the reality is that you may deal with more conflict through lack of compatibility.

Then there is that all important factor of chemistry, which is a connection, bond or feeling or attraction that stimulates a chemical process in the human, which creates a feeling of love or sexual attraction. If you have that mutual feeling or chemistry, then that person is likely to occupy your thoughts when you wake up and when you go to sleep. It’s an elixir that you cannot forcibly concoct; it’s either there immediately or something that simmers to a boil quite quickly as you get to know someone. Just where it comes from is hard to pin down, but there’s no way to force the spark of chemistry – it’s either there or it’s not.

In arranged marriages, sometimes the couple can learn to love each other over time in a way that is driven by compatibility but perhaps not necessarily chemistry. Chemistry without compatibility can lead to a fiery and passionate love affair that may in time combust. Compatibility without chemistry can lead to a warm and pedestrian relationship, but the parties involved may find themselves straying by accident when disarmed by sudden chemistry with someone else.

Ideally, in a relationship, it works best when you can have a little of both to create the balance and the likelihood of long-term success. A professional Matchmaker has both of these vital components in mind when seeking to provide you with dating opportunities that have the potential to really work. It’s wonderful to know you have someone on your side who wants you to have it all.